traumatic injury

Mom has fractured rib from a "traumatic injury". In layman's terms, since we all know none of us are beating her, she has been falling. The techs who did her bone scan said they appeared to be relatively recent. Good news: No evidence of cancer. Bad news: She's falling enough to be fracturing things. News to think about: This does not help the rumors of borderline elder abuse that have been swirling.

A note on that. It pissed me off. My brother started abruptly pushing harder to put mom in a home. i, at first, attributed it to his recent clinical depression (My diagnosis, via the help of the dsm IV TR: Major depressive Disorder Single Occurrence Without Psychotic Symptoms, coming out of Cyclical Dysthemia, but that's just my thoughts) and sudden desire to run away from here. No, that's not it. i later overhear a mutual friend stating, "how did she take the suggestion that you put your mom in a home?????" Okay. Anger here. So i confronted my brother.

Apparently people had been talking to her a**hole lawyer boyfriend, complaining about my mom wandering around, looking wild eyed, entering stores, etc. So, my guess from here, is that mr. lawyer who has nothing to do with my family (except that we don't like him because he treats her daughter like crap) , was embarassed, and complained to our friend "C". She in turn, talked to bubs. She called it borderline elder abuse. Grrrrr. i do not like the implication that i am abusing the most important human in my life.

The next day i got jumped by my family (more politely, and to my face at least this time). They agree that mom should be in a home.

Now what i've gotten from this is that we need to do something for mom. She shouldn't be alone. i'm loathe to go via the home, though. i think she would hate it. So here are the options i'm playing with:
1.) Move to the next county over where the services are a bit better. This way there's a chance i could get her into the very comprehensive day treatment program, that requires she live in that county. Downsides: Moving, and having the government pay, which means that they can then take her house and all her assetts.
2.) Private pay (less comprehensive) day treatment center in Scranton. Upsides: Don't have to move, we pay so they don't take her assetts. Downsides: Costs $55/day, $275/wk., or over $11,000 per year. Currently, i make a little over $12,000, to put that into perspective, though i hope to soon have a better job. There's still a good chance that, if i'm fortunate, that's roughly a third of my yearly earnings.
3.) In home care. Upsides: don't have to move, don't have to take mom to scranton every day. Downsides: Can be paid for by waiver program, but not highly therapeutic, can hire whoever we want, but again, government can take her assetts since they're paying.

i just had a sudden thought. Soon, we are going to lose our house to Sheriff's sale. Now, i'm going to try to pay this off, or that was the plan, by taking money from my inheritance. It just occurred to me, however, that maybe if we lost the house to sheriff's sale, and then we were the people who bought it (no one else is going to want it) :OD, then maybe it wouldn't be her selling it. See, if she sold it we have to wait five years, or they can still take it. If she loses it, then maybe that's not the same.

Then the lady who works for the area agency on the aging tells me that she may not be able to sell the house anyway, because they might claim she's not lucid, so she couldn't have sold it, and take it anyway.

Why does everyone want our house????? It needs new piping, a new roof, siding, re-wiring, etc.

Okay, i need to go clean the porch, because the freakin' code enforcement officer is on our back.

Also, mom cannot wait ten minutes. She's doing it herself, unable to wait unitl i finish this post, fractured ribs and all.